As with any big event, something will go wrong – a rain shower, a kid’s tantrum, a horse bombing your photos… These mishaps are unavoidable and will just bring people together and make for great stories down the line. Other mistakes, on the other hand, aren’t so funny. They are, however, avoidable and manageable. Learn how to avoid them here.
Blowing your clothing budget on the dress
Let’s say you have $2,000 for your outfit. That’s great, but your outfit includes jewellery, accessories, shoes, veil, underwear, tax, shipping, alterations. Factor these in and then you have your dress budget.
Having fixed ideas about flowers
You might have your heart set on some fancy orchids that, nine to 12 months later, as the day approaches, simply aren’t available or have rocketed in price. Think in colours, shapes and prices instead and leave it up to the florist.
Sending the save-the-date notices too early
You need to finalise the guest list first. If relatives from overseas can’t make it on that date, you’ll need to rearrange everything. Aim for six months before the big day and only send them out to people you really want to invite.
Not hiring a videographer
Photos are great, but videos move and have sound! You’ll be able to hear yourselves taking your vows, catch moments that were missed by the photographer and have some great dad-dancing blackmail material.
Micromanaging vendors and suppliers
They know what they’re doing, so just lay out your plans and visions and leave them to it. It’s ok to check in a few times, but if you’re making several anxious calls a week, it’s way too much.
Picking attendants too early on
You can be pressured into choosing the wrong people through emotion or family pressure. You may choose newer friends in a bid to forge a closer relationship, but you don’t really know them that well and so you can’t be sure you can rely on them.
Broadcasting details to all and sundry
The more people you tell, the more opinions and suggestions you’ll get. If you start talking about the details of the ceremony and reception, you’ll be under pressure to add this and take away that. Plus, the element of surprise will be lost, or, even worse, someone may copy you before your big day.
Doing your hair and make-up too late
You need to be the last of the bridal party to be made up and put up so you’re fresh. This means you’ll have to make enough time for everyone to be done first and still have enough time for you. Time your hair trials and use this to work out the schedule – always add an extra hour on top, too.
Hurrying the photos
You need around 90 minutes for your photo session so you can really relax into it. Anything less than 30 minutes means you’re rushing and you’ll look it, too! The first few shots are usually discarded because you’re feeling self-conscious and stiff.
Using friends instead of professionals
Unless of course, your friends are amazing photographers, DJs, caterers and florists. It’s worth spending as much as you can afford here so you get the expertise, rather than hoping for the best, being disappointed and possibly losing your chums.