The big day is almost here and after pretty much all of the planning is done and you know who’s sitting where, what colour your nail varnish is going to be and what your playlist is, you can start stressing about the ceremony itself. There may be some unpredictable things or unknowns involved…
You might take things like standing up in front of a crowd and making a speech or saying your vows in your stride. On the other hand, you may be very shy, or prone to worrying about things going in the wrong order or just going wrong. Some of you might be able to make a joke about a slip of the tongue or the wrong song at the wrong time and if so, then that’s great; remember…. your wedding is a joyous occasion that you’re sharing with the people you love…
People made it onto your guest list because you love them and they love you. No-one’s judging you and no-one’s going to notice any slight slip-ups; if they do, they’ll most likely make a joke of it.
Make sure the practical details are in order
Do your shoes pinch after an hour? Does your hairdo give you a headache after four hours? Have you moved your engagement ring to your right hand already? Do your bridesmaids know how to hold your train up? Does your wedding programme explain the traditions involved? If there are any foreign-language songs or recitations, have you included pronunciations in the song sheet? It’s the little things like this that help your day to be stress-free and smooth.
Rehearse any bits you find tricky with your celebrant
Your celebrant will become a very important figure in your wedding so take any concerns to them. Go over the order of events and take advice – if you’re switching up a mood too soon or your plans are too complicated for the time you have, they’ll tell you. And your celebrant will probably have thought of a lot more things to take the stress away before you even ask!!
Keep things simple
If you’re a born worrier, then give yourself fewer things to worry about. Restrict speeches to a couple of minutes, keep your vows short, meaningful and sweet and don’t even think about a flashmob dance!